February is often filled with conversations about love—Valentine’s Day, gifts and sweet messages everywhere. And while all of that is nice, I felt led to use this season to talk about something a bit deeper: marriage.
Not the Picture-perfect version of marriage, but the real thing. The kind that grows you, stretches you, humbles you, and teaches you what love really looks like over time.
Our Story
My husband and I met in 2015. We were quite young when we met, and we stayed in a relationship for about six years before getting married. Looking back now, I realise we didn’t come into marriage as people who had everything figured out. We were still learning, still growing, still becoming.
Now, we’ve been married for almost five years. And honestly, like most marriages, we’ve had our ups and downs. Some days we understand each other really well. Other days, we get on each other’s nerves. Sometimes he annoys me. Sometimes I annoy him. But through it all, we’re trying—trying to grow, to love better, and to make the best of our marriage.
One thing marriage has taught me is that you don’t remain the same person. I’m not the same person I was when I got married almost five years ago, and neither is my husband. With time, you change. And marriage invites you to keep choosing each other even as you both grow and evolve.
Love, Submission, and Balance
As Christians, marriage is often described as a reflection of Christ and the Church. I believe in submission to my husband, just as the Bible teaches. At the same time, Scripture also calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the Church—sacrificially, patiently, and selflessly.
I do think sometimes the conversation in churches can lean heavily on submission without always balancing it with love. But biblical marriage was never meant to be one-sided. It’s about mutual sacrifice, honour, and grace. When submission is met with love, and love is met with humility, marriage becomes a place where both people can grow safely.
Love That Doesn’t Keep Score
The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 13 that love keeps no record of wrongs. That sounds beautiful—and it is—but it’s not always easy.
Over time, misunderstandings happen. Words are spoken. Feelings get hurt. And as the years go by, those moments can add up if we’re not careful. Keeping no record of wrongs doesn’t mean pretending pain never happened. It means choosing forgiveness over bitterness and grace over constantly keeping score.
Marriage will test your ability to love unconditionally. But it will also teach you how much you need God’s help to love well.
Building a Christian Home
Marriage isn’t just about two people—it shapes the home you’re building together. A Christian home isn’t a perfect one. It’s one where Christ is at the centre.
Unity between parents matters. The way conflicts are handled matters. The atmosphere in the home matters. Children learn far more from what they see than from what they’re told. Faith is lived out in everyday moments—through patience, apologies, prayer, and choosing love even when it’s hard.
Communication, Intimacy, and Getting Help
Communication in marriage doesn’t come naturally just because two people love each other. It’s something you learn over time—how to speak, how to listen, how to understand each other better.
Intimacy is also more than just physical closeness. It’s emotional safety, trust, and openness. And sometimes, despite our best efforts, a marriage may need support. There is absolutely no shame in seeking Christian counselling. Getting help doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means you care enough to fight for your marriage.
A Final Thought
Marriage is a journey. A process. A daily decision to love, to forgive, and to grow.
God is patient with us as we learn. He understands our weaknesses and meets us with grace. If marriage feels easy right now, be thankful. If it feels challenging, don’t lose heart—growth often happens quietly.
This won’t be the last time I write about marriage. Over time, I hope to share more thoughts, lessons, and reflections as I continue learning and growing in my own marriage.
My prayer is that our marriages reflect Christ—not through perfection, but through love, humility, and grace.
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